J is for Jesus Centric


“I am the vine; you are the branches. If you remain in me and I in you, you will bear much fruit; apart from me you can do nothing.” (John 15:5)


…promise to strive to keep Jesus at the center of it all.

There’s an incredible song that FC Creative has on their new album called Just One Touch. What’s so moving about the song is that the focus of the lyrics and musical arc passionately builds to one name, Jesus. Listen to this a couple times after you’ve just had it out with the wife and it’ll likely get something in you rattling toward resolution.

Where we can get off track so often is when our focus leaves that vertical arc and goes horizontal, distracted by the world around us. If what we think, say, and do is in the likeness of Christ then our compass will always point due north, making life a lot easier and a whole lot more fulfilling. To get that fulfillment, however, we have to fill ourselves up with all the right stuff. The visual that someone gave us before getting married was a triangle with the two of us on the bottom and Christ on top. The closer that we would get to Christ would bring us closer together as a couple. The bond that this makes between two people is so strong, in fact, that it is was not recommended with members of the opposite sex unless they are engaged or married! Don’t believe me, try these next three steps with your wife!

Here are three ways that we can fill up and help to keep our marriage Jesus Centric:

1. Meet with God every morning. Maybe you’ve heard this a million-bajillion times, but it’s probably because it works! Amy and I have a hand full of counselors that we lean on in our marriage. One of these counselors is the very man that married us. The piece of advice that he will repeat every time we meet is to meet with God every morning and to read the Bible for at least 10 minutes every day. Everyone should have at least 10 minutes to meet with the Creator of the Universe.

2. Plug into a local church and start serving. “If you’re not serving your swerving,” is a popular phrase that our pastor always uses, and he’s right! Serving others puts a whole new perspective on marriage and life in general. It conditions the heart to be flexible, selfless, and something greater than what our tendencies may otherwise gravitate us to.

3. Seek out and connect with other married couples who are running the same race that you are. You may meet some bros at a men’s group at church or it may be guys you already know. It definitely helps that the majority of the guys that you do choose to hang with regularly are also married. You will relate on a whole different level with these men. As men we find encouragement, accountability, wisdom, and growth in these relationships. For more about that please check out the earlier post entitled ‘Loving Your Wife From A to Z: F is for Friends.’

What are some ideas that you have for keeping your Marriage Jesus Centric?


Previous Loving Your Wife From A to Z Posts:

  1. A – Ask The Hard Questions
  2. B – Bust up the Marital Monotony
  3. C – The Calming Effect
  4. D – Date Your Mate
  5. E – Enjoy Where You Are
  6. F – Friends
  7. G – Gravitating to Grace
  8. H – HandyMAN
  9. I – Integrity

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