13 Now listen, you who say, “Today or tomorrow we will go to this or that city, spend a year there, carry on business and make money.”14 Why, you do not even know what will happen tomorrow. What is your life? You are a mist that appears for a little while and then vanishes. 15 Instead, you ought to say, “If it is the Lord’s will, we will live and do this or that.” James 4:13-15
…commit to love my wife with all I am today and let tomorrow take care of it’s own.
I asked Marc, a good friend of mine, what wisdom he could impart to husbands who might stop by to grab a quick nugget before starting their day. I’ve had the privilege of serving with Marc at our church for a number of years. He’s as genuine as they come & truly a servant after God’s own heart. The man has twice the married years on me & over twice the kids, so its a no brainer for me to listen when the dude starts to talk about the latest that God’s been sharing with him.
“There was one thing,” he said. “My wife & I were just talking about how important it is to just soak it all in. We can often get so caught up in trying to achieve the next stage or get to the next chapter of our lives that it’s easy for us to lose sight of enjoying where God has us right now.”
I have to believe that this is a common oversight in marriages. I can easily see where I’ve fallen into this trap. I can also see how overlooking the place where God has us can compromise our availability for his call, whatever that may be. It’s the age old struggle with faith! We focus on the future to see so that we will believe; Christ said, “Blessed are those that believe without seeing.” He was making the point that Faith plays a critical role for us to be readily available for God to move in our lives, marriages, family, and world.
If we are not tuned into the moment, embracing, soaking it all in, chances we are not giving our full attention to God or our wife. Our intentions may be good, but intentions that overlook where God strategically has us is a bad plan any way you look at it. Dan, our fearless leader at our Men’s Group said these 3 things:
- If things are not happening at the right timing, critique your character
- Submit to the situation
- Keep the vision in view
We’re not forgetting the future, just not trading the present for it. The present is HERE and it’s FLEETING. Don’t miss out on loving your wife today; you just don’t know what will happen tomorrow or fifty years from now.
What can we do to soak in and enjoy our life with our wife in the today?